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November 18 乱乱的思绪... 一次次的感动，又一次次的伤心和难过，纠结着，并挣扎着，不知道该如何继续走下去... 迷茫的现状，并忧虑着毕业的去向，我该何去何从？总是想起这首老歌 "country road, take me home, to the place, where i belong..." 是的，我将属于哪里呢？ 实习报告，大学报告，一堆堆的methodology, 一堆堆的theories, 一堆堆的计划，却没有心思去做，有的只是沮丧... 是的，以前非常疑惑为设么北欧人动不动就Depressed，总觉得他们这么幸福，没有借口的；可是现在自己却变成了他们 - 无缘无故的， 莫名其妙的， 反反复复的难过... 漫长的雨天，漫长的冬天，漫长的黑天，还有这漫长的起风天， 设么时候能结束呢？！  November 10 侄子？！ 收到了老哥的宝宝在肚子里的Vedio，是三维还是四维，能很清楚的看见宝宝的样子和呼吸，好神奇啊！再过几个月我就有侄子了，兴奋！！我要学习怎样抱小宝宝，怎样喂食，怎样和小孩打交道~~ 一直都不是很喜欢和小孩子靠的很近，但现在发现自己母性大发，看见可爱的小孩就忍不住想亲几口，偶尔也会幻想设么时候自己会有宝宝呢？但知道那会是很久以后的事了~~所以先和老哥的宝宝玩几年吧，希望他/她会是个很健康很可爱的宝宝！期待！！ October 22 艰难的开始！ 实习快2个月，都是很简单的工作，大部分坐在办公室搜索资料并作计划。现在计划部分基本完成了，那么该到了怎么能让我的计划变成现实的阶段了！于是我要找很多人的联系资料，发很多邮件，希望能与所有的酒店，饭店老板，酿酒厂老板见面谈我的美食节计划并希望他们参与。本来觉得应该挺轻松的事情，可是没想到发出的邮件大部分都是不回的，于是只能打电话约他们了。问题来了，在整正打电话之前简直无比挣扎阿！！！心里犹豫着“该怎么开始谈话好呢？”“该怎么说服他们和我见面呢”“该怎么组织语言呢”...一堆堆的疑问和很强烈的胆怯~ 于是我手握着电话就是不敢播出第一个号码！ 那内心的挣扎犹如 《灌篮高手》里在 樱木投球前的挣扎一样一样的！！！怪不得以前总要超过一整集的时间描述他的内心呢，我算明白了... 终于在很久以后播通了第一个电话，成功约到了一人，虽然时间不怎么好，但心情舒畅了些。于是第2个电话，对方直接来了句“我对这个美食节没啥兴趣，我们没有钱”之后就拜拜了；第3个接电话是个下手，听了很有兴趣，但要请示老板~~ 就这简单的活我折腾了半天！！！下周有3个Meeting， 约到人开心的同时我又开始紧张了：到时候问他们设么好呢？与丹麦老板见面怎么才能得体呢？...这周末有的忙了！！！ 有几个实习生它们基本都快完成任务了，因为他们的任务很明确，上位就知道该做设么，怎么做。我的有很多不确定性，从Art Festival到Food Festival，所有的节日点子，每天干设么都要自己想，就差查食谱了！计划赶好就要一个人到处跑，采访N多人，所以我的整正的工作才开始...看到了未来的艰辛阿... October 09 又开始糊思乱想~ 坐在办公室里却不能投入任何心思去做工作，因为最近又开始多想了，未来的迷茫总是时不时的来困惑我~ 也可能是25岁年龄而带给我的压力。以前总觉得自己很年轻，遥想着踏入中年离我很远，而现在忽然一夜之间自己身处在大龄青年的位置，很难适应。随之而来的就是忧虑，工作上，未来的家庭上，一切一切的未知项~ 其实我想要的幸福很简单，一份安稳的工作和一个彼此相爱的老公。但这也是要求很高的事情，不是吗？有多少人能有稳定的工作呢？而又有多少人能找到彼此都钦慕的另一半呢？！我知道现在有一个很喜欢我的人，但那现实吗?? 能打破遥远的距离和漫长的时间吗？？有时候我不得不要想很多事情，因为我天生缺乏安全感，完全符合巨蟹座的这个特征。我需要很多很多足够的证据证明他是喜欢我的，证明我们是可以在一起的，但这永远都很难达到，我仍然感觉到它的脆弱~~ 妈妈说他们现在最担心我了，以前他们是最不担心我的。他们希望我能幸福，希望我找到真心对我好的人，更希望他是中国人，不论他住在哪里。我本人一点都不建议他是不是中国人，但我很建议他是否真的把我放在很重要的位置！是否能给我足够的安全感！！这安全感对我来说特别的重要~ 相比之下，也许只有中国男生才能足够体贴，足够给与安全感吧， 无论是文化上，还是距离上~ i dont really know... 又想起仙剑奇侠转里的一句话 ”相爱不如相知“。我很喜欢这句话，只有懂你的人才能真正爱你，照顾你。 又想起周华健的一句歌词 “我喜欢 这样一个女人，让我欢喜让我忧“... 又想起夏天快离开芬兰时，一个已婚芬兰朋友对我讲的一句话：在爱情里，要做个永远自私的人！ ... ... 我真的老了，也开始为情所困了，也开始唠叨这些老掉牙的东西， 记得以前很鄙视为设么有人总是浪费时间想着没用的东西呢，可是现在自己也变成这样的人了...而且有点像”结婚狂“的方面发展，特别羡慕刚刚新婚的一对又一对，于是想到自己，又是一片伤感和无奈...就像这秋天的落叶，焦黄而孤单的飘落.... October 01 我的中秋是设么时候...September 23 work notes 23/09/09 Today we had a meeting from 8:30-11:00 am, which was the longest one i had ever. All interns presented how far the projects was going and what problems we came up during last 2 weeks. It was really great that all of us were sharing knowlwdge and experiences. I am currently focusing on the Food Festvial, which is also my interest, as i am this kind of person who likes travel for food and other entertainment. And i personally love good and local food ALOT!!! have been searching many festivals from Canada, UK, etc, it seems that people are happy enough as long as there are cheap but good food, beer and music. But i will have to come up some ideas about how to organize this 3-day big events. Gonna talk to some important person who has experiences and network in this field next week and make some sort of business plan. I will also have to visit many restaurants and hotels to ask if they can participate in the festival. Meanwhile, i am almost painful about my own project. Haven't read any theory yet so i am far behind the schedule. Gonna be very busy in the coming weeks :( Here are some pics of my working place.  entrance to the office  my messy table, i use my own computer because i can do whatever i want. The table can be lifted up and down.  some other angles. my moss is sitting just opposite me with the computer on the left of the pic. September 20 转 " 女人爱问的几个问题和标准答案 " 觉得作者很厉害,很了解女人,赞一个! 问题一：你爱我吗？ 错误答案A："爱。" 错误答案B："这还用问吗？" 错误答案C："你烦不烦啊？ 标准答案：目光怜爱的望着对方三秒，然后神情郑重的点一下头，同时发出"嗯"的声音，然后一把把她揽在怀里...... 解 析：答案A会让她觉得你太不严肃了，纯粹胡弄她；答案B会让她觉得你对她的爱不够坚定，而且她一定会喋喋不休的问到底，让你给她明确的答案，够你烦的；答 案C过后一定是一顿大架或冷战。其实女人对男人是不是爱她这件事儿心里特有数，她这么问纯粹就是撒娇调情，你抱抱她亲亲她比回答什么都让她高兴。 自:Club.ChinaRen.com 问题二：你看我这件衣服好看吗？ 错误答案A："挺好看的。" 错误答案B："还行。" 错误答案C："真好看，我老婆穿什么都好看。" 标准答案：来来来，转一圈让我看看......"待她害羞的转完一圈后，把她拉过来，拉着她的手微笑的看着他说："真挺好看的。 解析：答案A会让她觉得你应付她；答案B会让她觉得没自信，在她心里她穿什么你都应该觉得好；可是如果真说好看，像答案C一样她又会觉得你花言巧语不真诚。所以啊，你要表示出对她提的这个问题的认真程度，必须要仔细的看看再说。 自:Club.ChinaRen.com 问题三：在她把她的闺蜜介绍给你认识之后，回到家她问："你觉得我这朋友怎么样啊？" 错误答案A："挺漂亮的。" 错误答案B："不怎么样，比你差远了。" 错误答案C："我都没怎么注意她。" 标准答案：我觉得她对你挺真诚的，应该好好珍惜这样的朋友。 解 析：答案A纯粹是没事儿找抽型的，女人是绝不能允许你在她面前说别的女人好的（当然，母亲除外。）；答案B听着就太假了；答案C你一定觉得回答得挺高明的 吧，她压根儿就不会信，而且她会展开想像分析你为什么不愿意对她的朋友进行评价。所以，要避开问题，转个弯儿回答，让她觉得你一切都是为她着想，她会有被 呵护照顾的感觉。 自:Club.ChinaRen.com 问题四：你觉得我胖了吗？ 错误答案A："没胖。" 错误答案B："好像是胖了。" 错误答案C："呦，是不是最近太累啊，怎么都瘦成这样了？" 标准答案：过来让我抱抱，等抱过之后你再说：我就喜欢你这样的，有点肉。 解 析：答案A回答得太干脆了吧，她听着不过瘾。答案B纯属找骂，女孩子怎么能喜欢听别人说她胖呢？即使你再三强调你喜欢胖的，她还会不高兴；答案C听着都那 么虚伪，现在的女人哪那么好蒙啊。其实，在女人的心里，她还是希望男人不在乎她的胖瘦，虽然嘴上说为了你减肥，其实是为了自己更漂亮，能穿更多好看的衣 服。所以你用肢体语言表示出你喜欢她有点儿肉就可以了。 自:Club.ChinaRen.com 问题五：我和你前女友比起来，你更喜欢哪一个？ 错误答案A："废话，当然是你了，要不然干吗跟你在一起。" 错误答案B："嗯，怎么说呢，如果让我说实话，各有千秋吧。" 错误答案C："她比你差远了。" 标准答案：狠狠的咬她一口或亲她一下或捏她的小脸蛋，等到她撒娇的嗷嗷叫的时候你就说："下次再问这种无聊的问题，还得这么惩罚你。" 解 析：答案A也太生硬直接了吧，她接下来就会问："那你以后碰见比我好的是不是也得把我踹了啊？"答案B您就等着分手吧，忒实在了也。答案C听上去还不错， 但你这不是抽自己嘴巴嘛，你说自己前女友不好会让女人很得意而降低了你自己的身价。其实在女人心里，她特别希望你的前女友是个特别优秀的女人，而偏偏是你 不愿意跟她好了，这样女人心里会有成就感的。可是你又不能直接说前女友有多好，所以就用她喜欢的方式来回避问题吧（至于她是喜欢你捏她的脸蛋儿还是咬她一 口我们就不知道了）。 自:Club.ChinaRen.com 问题六：如果我和你妈妈同时掉进水里，你会救哪一个？ 错误答案A："你有聊无聊啊？" 错误答案B："一块儿救。" 错误答案C："宝贝儿，别难为我，再说这种情况也不会发生的。" 标准答案：哦，我没告诉你吧，我妈是游泳健将。 解析：虽说问这个问题确实很无聊但你也不能像答案A那样，这会引来喋喋不休的争吵；答案B她一定会不甘心的追问下去，你不想清静清静吗？答案C听上去还不错，但还是很牵强。不如就幽默一回，别让她一天到晚的老杞人忧天没事儿找事儿了。 自:Club.ChinaRen.com 问题七：如果我老了难看了你还会爱我吗？ 错误答案A："不可能，你老了也好看。" 错误答案B："女人不同的年龄段有不同年龄段的魅力......" 错误答案C："没事儿，你老了我也好不到哪儿去，咱俩谁也别嫌弃谁。" 标准答案：我巴不得你难看点儿老点儿呢，这样放在家里多放心啊。 解析：答案A她听着也高兴，但心里知道这是绝对不可能的；答案B就赶紧打住吧，唐僧来了；答案C不就说她老了肯定不好看了嘛，她怎么能接受呢？所以啊，最聪明的答案就是既让她打消顾虑又让她知道你特别在意她特别怕失去她 September 15 weird meeting.. 15/09/09 Just back home from a truly weird and confusing meeting with those municipality guys. Yeah, I did the presentation as the Schedule planned and i have been working for it during the last 2 weeks. However, there were no comments on my inspiration ideas at all. It was their idea that i supposed to find events related to the nature and the stream in the national park, the best would be something floating on the water. And i do think my lantern idea matched this theme perfectly. However, the meeting ended up with a plan that they will invite some local or national or even international artists in the next month and stop the current culture event project for a while - one month? or longer? or forever? Nobody knows... How can they change things so easily? And make my work worthless? Now i have to change my project to some new field, which probably is promoting all the products they could have to the 3 day festival, if i get the concept right. It means that i have to know all the projects that other interns are handling with very well and make some sort of plans. >_< I am not a super talent girl who is supposed to know everything!!!  I am getting lost now as i dont know what is going on with my own project and i have no idea about other projects as well. Feel quite helpless but it is enough for it today. Hope to figure something out tomorrow... September 13 working note 4 11/09/09 911 Today all the interns have a meeting with our boss Carsten. Of course the meeting starts with coffee and cake as usual. Carsten introduces the stakeholders and all the information about the National Park, and promises that we will have a trip to NP very soon. Everyone is excited by this news :D Then it follows our self-introducing and the projects we are dealing with. It is also the time that we are sharing our questions, ideas and knowledge.The meeting is animated and full of fun. I like my work, which is much better than the lectures in university... September 10 working note 3 10/09/09 The teacher's day. Today i had a meeting with my boss and another employee from the kommune at 2 pm discussing what i'v found about the culture events. Again the meeting started with cake, as each Thursday afternoon there are free cakes!!! I have to mention again that i do love danish working enviorment. I picked up 5 of the "best ideas" and presented while showing the color printed photos. My best idea were: The Great Fish day in Iceland, Chinese Sky Lanterns, Chinese Water Lanterns, Chinese Dragon Boat Festival, and the Music Water, all of which are related to the stream and the nature of the National Park. Well, i searched lots of culture events in Europe, but most of them are about concerts, dancing, drinking, movies... which do not meet my boss' principle. He wants something special and different. My boss and the another girl were very impressed when i showed the photos of Sky Lanterns and Water Lanterns. They said they have never seen this kind of things before and the photos were truly beautiful and very awsome! Also the Music water, they known there was a little one in Tivoli, however, it isn't as impressive as the ones i showed. Haha, the reason is that all photos i gathered are originally from China and we know all Chinese events are huge :D Im happy that they liked my idea and asked me to do a presentation for other people in the municipality next Tuesday. Meanwhile, i am asked to collect more photos and impress other bosses. So i have to work little bit at weekend. Well, bad thing is that my office computer was taken by some other guy so i have to bring my own computer from tomorrow! Weird!! i will have to carry the laptop all day then!! Good thing is that all interns who work in the office will be offered the free lunch buffet from next monday. So i will save 20 kr. each day  Here are part of the photos i've showed during the meeting.   sky lanterns  Water lanterns Friday is coming! Can't wait to go back to Aalborg :D PS: why there are not so many people visit my space anymore since i started to write in English?!  |
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